A good starting point for practising consensual sex is remembering that both or all the parties involved are responsible to ensure that sex is consensual.

As givers we must ask for consent if the person receiving is comfortable with our actions, and as receivers, we must communicate any discomfort and express ourselves if want the other person to stop.

When we seek verbal consent, it should be a clear, loud, and happy 'yes'!

Besides verbal consent, one can also look for visual cues in the other person’s body language. Are they smiling, seeming happy and confident? Are they reciprocating and engaged in the process, or is it just we who are engaged and eager?